What to say when your friend is losing faith?

What to say when your friend is losing faith?

Its hard to hear from a good friend that she's losing her faith. She thought that God wasn't able to hear her prayers. She was troubled regrets, anger and impatience attacking her. Her mind was clouded with emotions which lead her to felt unappreciated to what she has at this moment. She's now in the brink of unhappiness. 

It doesn’t mean we are Christians we cannot experience struggles. In fact the more we believe in God the more we are prone to temptation. To think that we can’t get through our problems in life. We are the target of the evil forces. And their way is to let us feel that we are being abandoned by God as what they thought and believe it towards God. 

God will never abandon us He will always be there for us. This is a test of faith. Pray, pray, lets pray, do not stop praying. You will get through this and God will be your rock. If all else fails, remember Job. Satan did his worst to that man, and no matter how bleak things looked, Job never wavered in his faith. In that story God ALLOWED Satan to torment Job because he wanted to use Job to make a point to the enemy. Job was God's loyal and faithful servant and nothing that Satan did would ever change that. In the end, Job was rewarded abundantly. We are all in constant spiritual warfare. Hang in there, let’s pray, I pray for you and always keep the faith.

After reading her text I offered a prayer and ask God to send to her the holy spirit and give her wisdom to find meaning and purpose to what she had been through right now. 

When in times like this, when we don’t know what to do and what to say to our suffering friend experiencing the loss of faith. Let us refer her to a counselor of the church, to a Pastor or Priest, to a guidance counselor and always say a prayer after the conversation.

When our ambition is bounded

I have listened to Dan Gilbert: The Surprising Science of Happiness in TED Talk

I agreed to his statement. Yes, some things are better than others, we should have preferences that lead us into one future over another but when those preferences drive us too hard and too fast because we are overrated the difference between these futures we are at risk. When our ambition is bounded it leads us to work joyfully. When our ambition is unbounded it lead us to lie to cheat, to steal, to hurt others, to sacrifice things that we value. Our longings and our worries are both to some degree overblown because we have within us the capacity to manufacture the very commodity we are constantly chasing when we choose experience.

Indeed its a choice! Choice choice choice~ "Our longings and our worries are both to some degree overblown, because we have within us the capacity to manufacture the very commodity we are constantly chasing when we choose experience" ~ Dan Gilbert

 

What is Community Acquired Pneumonia?

What is Community Acquired Pneumonia? Community-acquired pneumonia (CAP) refers to pneumonia (any of several lung diseases) contracted by a person with little contact with the healthcare system (Wikipedia).

Community Acquired Pneumonia ito 'yong diagnosis ko.

This was the first time that had been admitted to the hospital and I hope will be the last!

When the doctor said, “Admit kana ngayon” . I answered “ Doc kaya paman nko, can I'll just take my medications at home?. The doctor said that the infections are serious. But I insisted that I I’m okay kaya ko pa naman ang katawan ko. The doctor said, “ang tigas talaga ng ulo mo! I just laugh and my psyche’s said ”Here comes the saying na “spirit is willing but the body is weak”.

At night my body is in heat, there was pinching in my chest that seemed like a knife that wants to chop.

So I followed the doctor’s advice in the morning. The denial on my part by kept on telling my visitors about being hospitalized for the first time. Indeed, I’m not a super woman!

I thank God I’m okay now.

Everything that happen to us has been designed for our spiritual growth. ‪#‎Live‬!

A Quarter Life Blues

There were times I really wanted to be alone. It is not that I am aloof but I just need some time to think especially when I was surrounded with people who were very loud.

Sometimes I think and asked myself. Does it something to do with my age?... A quarter life blues..( Here we go again my psyche) That I don’t want force myself to blend in?. I might wanted to listen to them but I don’t really wanted to stay with them.

This quote is comforting to what I’m feeling right now. From Tanya Davis she said,

 “You could be in an instant surrounded if you needed it. If your heart is bleeding, make the best of it. There is heat in freezing, be a testament”.

I guess my feelings to this state was affirmed!

What's on my mind?, What's on my thoughts?

                   

As I open this new post I ask myself what's on my mind? what are my thoughts?

                There’s nothing wrong with having knowledge and power as long as it is beneficial to all mankind, not rooted in greedy and personal selfish interests. Having a brain is a gift from God to people to be used to think about what is right and wrong. I agree that when a man enjoys having his creative powers may lead to potential destruction unless there is wisdom from God above or higher being and it could give a good benefit to all. What the mind goes the body will follow, so whatever the desire of the person might be the reflection of his or her attitudes and values.

            I believe that it is essential for a person to commit a mistake and let the human learn from their own experience so that it would fill into their being and own realization that committing a mistake is not stupidity but a chance to be improved as a person. Indeed, the feeling of emptiness also has a purpose to be filled in. Some say, “it is wiser to learn from the mistake of others” but again an experienced felt from the heart and soul could drive change for the person and can change self and be able to inspire others to change too. 

                 People may have different ways and different expressions of love. I agree that love is not enough to live here in this world. There must be understanding, compromise, and sacrifice which cannot be seen as a sacrifice, but a joy. There must be a purpose on why a person lives here in this world as a motivational force. I believe that I myself should have meaning in what I do. This kind of job that I have is a choice as I find it noble and makes me realize that my existence in this world is worth the while. 

                Some people may perceived that you are great but the thing is they do not know what you have gone through. All they know is the outer look or persona that you wear every day. They do not care to ask you if you are okay and if some did ask but you just don't want to respond authentically, not ready to dig in more of the real emotions, too much cultivation and so hectic to deal with (repression - a motivated forgetting, unconsciously). It is also a hint that some people were interested in you, or sometimes you are not interested to connect with them or sometimes you are the ones that is out of the connection. Sometimes we will meet a stranger thinking if that stranger will be with us, on our journey in life or for the rest of our lives. 

                Sometimes even in evaluating thy self I tend to ask what’s bothering you inside? what haunts you, self?. When there were so many things that I could think or make. I was suddenly in a stance to think or doubt myself made me pause and ask this question.. "I am strong?', "can I do it?" . But then , I realized....the truth is, I am at 0% capacity and the only thing that I am clinging to is to our God Almighty, thinking without Him , I am nothing!

                 It is true that self and society are interconnected. If I would like to change society it must be started within me. I read a passage about "If you want to change the world, go home and love your family". This is kind of bugling, issues within the self and family is crippling to discuss and sometimes hard to fathom but as long as we could just live by. continuously and have a deeper understanding and able to be more gentle and tender with one another we could still be at peace without even forcing to discuss the "big elephant", within the family. I should strive to become emotionally stable or stable in all aspects so that I am able to help others, if not yet for the self fully , because I believe in helping others could slowly begin to help me cope with my own issues. I should be more responsible (no pressure self!) for my own attitude, behavior, and values, before becoming an agent of change to society.  These are in my thoughts right now... wanted to impart the society to live and make this world a better place, despite my own defects and circumstance--  a functional imperfect human being! soon hoping to become a healed healer (yes easier said than done, but at least hoping). 

                Self-respect is so much important for me regardless the gain of the respect from others. I am glad that I am reaching the point to not please everyone and seek to their approval. I am tired pleasing everyone without looking into my own depths. 

            What is important to me right now is that I have already accepted Jesus in my heart and He may live in me. Random question to the self before "What do you want to become when you grow up?".. Here's my revised answer from my previous answer to become either dentist or writer. 

          When I grow up, I want to become happy, this is my ultimate goal in life, letting people know that I am their friend. It made me realized when I knew the qualities of Jesus Christ, He used to help other people. He doesn’t choose anyone as being with Him, He is fair to all and exempts no one to be called as His friend. So much thankful for knowing and understanding Him. May He will always be my model of doing things that could always please Him. What a humbling feeling that I as human not perfect could possibly change to become good -- never better, yet and may live to give ripple effect to other people. For some, I hope they got model, created themselves if they don't believe in divine human like Jesus, at least to the higher self or vibration.